When you have a child it’s always the same litany of advice being bandied about by those who have gone before you, “Don’t do this” sprinkled with a little bit of “Don’t do that” and the coup de grace of all parental cliches … “Enjoy your time with them, it goes so fast.”
What I have learned is that it does indeed fly by and there’s not a dang thing you can do to stop it. Believe me. I’ve run every scenario and it’s just not possible.
It is my friends … inevitable. She will grow up.
So what’s a dad to do?
At the ripe age of 41, I’m doing this later than most who have gone before me. The old bones already lament the trip up the 21 stairs to the second floor (I do rock the Fitbit stats though) and I’m not too far removed from becoming the codger who uses the same excuse for everything that is wrong with the world — “It’s those damn kids and their rap music.”
I say all this only to emphasize the simplicity of how you should approach parenthood:
Enjoy. Every. Second.
It’s difficult to drop what you’re doing and answer the all too familiar call of, “Daddy, will you play with me?” Am I right? Need to pay those bills, wash those dishes and the litter box is disgusting. How do I have time to make it all work?
There’s a wonderful song that I listen to at least once every day (this is a true statement) since becoming a father. And without a doubt, it will be included in any future marital ceremony that may come to pass in the coming years. It’s lyrics are simple, but the message is sweet … and yes, I cry every time.
Here’s the chorus:
So I will dance with Cinderella while she is here in my arms
‘Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oh, I will dance with Cinderella, I don’t want to miss even one song
‘Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight and she’ll be gone
Simple as that — enjoy it. Bask in it. Suck every ounce of goodness, pain and life lessons out of that super short stint of time.
‘Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight and she’ll be gone.